Sex Education for Adults

It is surprising to think about how many people are not aware of the gender differences involved in sex. There are potential problems that occur when we don’t understand these sexual differences that can impact your relationship.

The Sexual Response Cycle is the four stages of sex are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Excitement refers to the pounding feeling you fell in your chest, muscle tension increases, Plateau refers to the changes in the excitement phase are intensified. The orgasm stage is the shortest phase and generally only lasts a few seconds. It involves rhythmic contractions and spasms. It is an intense emotional and physical pleasure. It’s more common for women to not feel orgasms. Two possible reasons include males get there really quickly, while females aren’t there yet by the time males are done. Another possible reason could be because the spot where males have to insert their penis is too deep for males to reach naturally. Only 8% of orgasms are reached with a penis. Last, the resolution, the body slowly returns to its normal function. It is where you experience an afterglow which refers to cooling down pleasure.

Male Differences:

Men have a longer refractory period when compared to females. This means that if you try to sexually arouse a male after they’ve reached their climax, it will hurt them. Males get aroused a lot easier and a lot faster than females. A reason for that could be because, since birth, males are aware of their male body part since its external while females sex body parts are internal. The average male has six to seven erections during the day. This is not always caused by sexual thoughts. An example of this would be morning wood. Men’s testicles continually produce semen. After a couple of days of that build up, they need to ejaculate (fluid prostate), to let the semen out because it causes discomfort. Men have sex to feel close, warm, and safe. In addition, during sex, men release dopamine, which is the excitement chemical, and serotonin, which is the sense of wellness chemical.

Females: For females, it is a longer, slower, harder process to reach a climax during sex. Females don’t naturally release lubricating liquid like males produce semen. For females, a couple of days before their menstrual period is when they feel the friskiest because their hormone level is at their max. During this period, which usually lasts about two days, the female's husband smells different. It interesting to recognize that husbands always smell their wife in that way because they’re always at that hormone level, while females are not. Females only have sex after they feel close, warm, and safe. They have to have those feelings before they have sex.

It’s interesting to know that the couple who has the most enjoyable sex are 40-50-year-olds who are happily married. Why is this? Because they approach sex differently than young horny adults. They see sex like unwrapping a priceless, delicate, fragile, present. When being sexually intimate should involve being kind to your spouse, being delicate, and slow. The most enjoyable sex is when you forget about you, and your desires and focus on the other person. That shows you’re being generous.

Understanding these differences will help us be aware of how the opposite sex’s body and thought process works when it comes to having sex. You may hear many women call their husbands “pigs” because they feel like all they want is sex but understanding that their bodies and hormones function differently than females may help you understand where they’re coming from.